The following is a guest post from Amanda. Hope you all had a great weekend!
Having kids and starting a family is something that many people dream of. While it can be incredibly rewarding, it’s not something that should be done on a whim. In order to provide children with the best possible upbringing, it’s important to take a few factors into consideration. As a result, there are three main questions you should ask yourself before deciding if it’s the right time for kids.
Am I financially stable? Typically, the first thing to consider is whether or not you and your partner are able to financially support a child. This means looking beyond the initial hospital expenses and thinking long term until the child reaches the age of 18. Due to an increase in the cost of living in general, it can be difficult for a couple to make ends meet while raising a child.
To figure this out, you should consider whether or not you and your partner currently earn enough money to cover the expenses. You should determine if your careers are relatively stable and if they’re likely to stay that way in future years. Besides this, you should consider whether either of your careers have financial growth opportunities.
Is my partner ready? Even if you’re gung-ho on having kids, it’s important that your partner is equally as ready. Many times, one person can’t wait to start a family while the other is reluctant or completely against it. Before bringing a child into the world, you should definitely have a conversation to make sure that your partner feels the same. If you’re not both on the same page, you’re probably better off waiting until your partner feels just as ready. Otherwise, it’s really not fair to the child and could lead to complications later on down the road.
Are we responsible enough? Along with this, you and your partner should have enough maturity and responsibility to effectively raise a child. While some couples may desire to have children, many aren’t completely ready to deal with the difficulties associated with it. Since raising children is a full time job, you should be emotionally prepared and able to make sacrifices for the well being of a child.
In closing, having children isn’t something to rush into. Ultimately, you are responsible for taking care of a human life and should be 100% committed before you make the choice to have kids. For more information about making a decision or options you have to help with fertility, you can read more about the requirements here.