Now that I’m in my *cough* 30’s, I’ve been reevaluating my “friendships”. For some? Friendships come in all the usual packaging. And in my case, that’s true. For the most part. I have noticed that some friendships are one sided, some faded by the wayside, some got stronger and some haven’t changed much.
Example #1- Nena. We’ve been friends since we were 6. We were the cutest little brownies ever. If you’ve been here long, you’d know that Nena lost her son Glenn in November due to complications of Cerebral Palsy. Our friendship remains, hard as it is for me (and I’m sure for her.) I feel hopeless watching her grieve 4 provinces away.
Example #2- Christie. Our story is a little different. Christie and I were friends in high school. We were both band geeks. She played alto sax while I played clarinet. During high school, we were close, however usually with a few other people with us. When we were in university, we drifted apart. Unfortunately, Christie’s sister passed away while we were university. Her sister was 17. I immediately went to Christie’s side. And through tragedy, our friendship rekindled. It’s one of those friendships that even if you haven’t spoken for weeks/months, etc, we can pick it up where we left off.
Example #3- Rhea. She’s my sister from another mother. Honestly, how 2 people could be so similar, it’s hilarious! She too was a band geek in high school. We spend our days chatting back and forth on MSN, KIK (for while we’re away from computers) and the occasional phone call. I guess finding a friend like this on the internet shouldn’t be shocking. Since online dating is all the rage. I am truly lucky to have found one of my “best” friends in an unconventional way.
Example #4- My friend, Meg. We attended the same university and “knew” each other, but not well. Shortly after I moved to Toronto, Meg and I met for coffee, catching up over lost times. She too was a person that we could just pick up where we left off. After Jillian was born, she became a saving grace for me, watching Lauren during a trip to the NICU, watching the girls or coming for coffee with me. Unfortunately, life and distance got in the way of our friendship. It’s still one that I hold dearly.
Example #5- Nolie. Nolie and I also met online first. We met in person while Nolie was here for a conference and then we attended Blissdom Canada together. Since I was in the beginnings of an RA flare, I couldn’t do much. I had even thought about cancelling. Fortunately, Nolie helped me in and OUT of my bathing suit (Have you ever tried to get a bathing suit on when your arms ache?!) and then sticking up for me and standing by me when I was stared at during one of the round table discussions.
I’m sure I could keep going forever! Have your friendships evolved into something you didn’t anticipate?